Yesterday, the only grandparent I really did know and was close to – my grand mother (Dadima) passed way. I wish I could have said that it was a pain free death, but I can’t as it wasn’t. She was 94.
Fluently multi-lingual she enjoyed reading, traveling and singing . Later she fell in love with my grandfather — an entrepreneur who pioneered setting up chemical dyestuff industries collaborating the latest German and Japanese technology. She had two sons and three grandchildren – I am happy to be the first one of her grandchildren and knew her for the longest (my way to saying that i was her favourite -Cheeky i know ! )
Tonight, I sit and think of her and know that her memory will forever be in my heart.
There are many things I’ve learnt and observed from her but here are a few that I will cherish for life:
- Look at the bright side of life .. in the last 10 years, she wasn’t really very mobile or in good health.. but she was always positive and happy to meet you and talk to you.. very rarely would I hear her complain.
- Having a large house is not enough.. it’s important to have a large hospitable heart.
- Don’t pray for a long life, but for a healthy life filled with purpose, family and friends.
- Treasure the memories … I loved the stories she used to tell me about her travels to England, Japan, Germany, Kenya and other parts of the world.
Yesterday, when my parents informed me about her passing away.. my immediate reaction was to catch the next flight from London to attend the funeral in Sea Face Park at Breach Candy where she lived in Mumbai.
But to my surprise, the funeral was already over .. few hours after her passing away!
Super- surprising , I know !
Well, in the Hindu culture (also in the Jewish and some other cultures), it’s believed that the sooner you cremate the body , the faster the soul gets detached to its earthly attachments.
Knowing that she was now pain free and had transcended into another form .. from body to spirit .. it makes me feel a lot calmer & happier.
I am happy to have had a loving grandparent and the thought of whom will inspire me in the times to come.
I write this post in the memory of my dadima – Saroj Shah. I hope it makes you reconnect with a loved one that isn’t lost, but remains in your heart!